I used to be really sad about those times & look inward, wondering what I had done wrong or not done at all, wondering what might have been different. Over the past few years, I've come to realize that short of a few strange or regrettable circumstances, we usually just drift apart as people and the best thing to do is know and understand these two things: people come into our lives at the times they are meant to me there and go when they are meant to go, and that not every goodbye is forever.
In the case of this old friend, I had heard that she was getting married over the weekend and realized that I had only ever met her fiancé once, at a group dinner years ago and that as far as I could remember, that was the last time I had seen her, hugged her, told my friend I cared about her and I laughed out loud because of how absurd that would have seemed to my 22 year old self.
We used to be adventurers together! We had traveled around Europe, huddling together in strange hostiles, jauntily and jokingly wearing berets in Paris, making our voices go low and robotic, mimicking the infamous "Mind the Gap" underground train warnings. She had been the one to, wisely, advise me against letting my hair turn into dread locks, and the one to console me with a round of beers after I had washed them out. I'm still laughing as I write that.
So I've found that when we notice that we've grown apart from someone there is a moment when we can feel sad, or have a kind of wake, drinking some tea over a phone call & remembering the good times. And if today or someday down the road, you find yourself grown apart from someone you loved, I hope you & recall and honor all the bright colors they have woven into the tapestry of your lives. Then watch that thread fly out into the wind, wishing them luck, and happily wondering if and when they may return to you, newly colored by their experiences, at the same time fresh and familiar.
Lots of love,
She uses a hair extension clip to achieve the look and I have to say that probably seems like the easiest way to do it if you're wanting to get the look on your own but if you do have a friend, a few hours and an appetite for something fun and silly, I'm sure you could just clip the loom right to your hair and have someone else do the weaving then return the favor.
I was definitely thinking about doing something like this at my next hospital infusion. Those go on for several hours and if the I.V. isn't in the back of my hand or the inside crook of my elbow, I often have my hands free for a little project and it feels good to have achieved something and look toward the day at the hospital with something other than dread.
Also, if you're a volunteer at infusion wards or pediatrics wards, this could be a fun project if you work with patients who do still have their hair or are wearing wigs. Just be sure to check with your point person at the hospital ahead of time.
You might have some of these materials laying around the house or be able to grab them at a local crafting store but here are links to all the materials you might need in case you're in my situation and not able to easily go out and make a shopping trip or you wanted to send them as a package to someone you love.
I personally haven't ever tried hair extensions (my hair grows like a weed as is) but these seem like a very reasonable price and I like that it's possible to choose between natural appearing options or fun, silly extensions depending on what look you're going for. I can definitely see the wild, bright hair being fun for kiddos in the summertime or kids at heart going to a summer festival & I love that each pack comes with 5-6 pieces so that sisters or friends can be matching. Also, halloween is around the corner so these could be fun to incorporate into a costume later on!
Either way, Enjoy! xoxo