I'm so happy to say that it is finally time for us to get back to the wonderful work of starting a family. My days are happy if hard and we've learned what is possible though the love and support of family and friends, through the constant coordination and partnership in our marriage, and through utilizing the skills and knowledge gained from this arduous journey.
I may always be living with disability but many inspiring moms & dads do that same thing, sometimes through even greater challenges. I'll include a clip of someone who really inspired me at the bottom of this page. Noah Galloway is a dad of three and an Iraq war veteran who lost the majority of his left arm and leg during an IED exploaion. He has gone on not just to be a phenomenal father to his children but also one of the most inspiring athletes on Dancing with the Stars. During just one of Noah's standing ovations, a judge yelled over the crowd, “Your experiences are unimaginable, but your spirit soars unbroken my darling." I believe that is true of so many parents now caring for their children, living and providing beautiful, full lives disability be damned.
To anyone that believes parents have to be physically perfect in order to be safe, loving role models, I say take a look around you, it's happening every day.
That's why we were so excited when we arrived at the fertility clinic and found the most supportive team of experts I have ever worked with. Not a single person questioned my drive to be a mother and in fact, Dr. Amato encouraged me to donate my eggs and become our child's biological parent! I cannot tell you how much my heart was soaring at that moment.
All this time I never believed that I would be able to take part in the conception of our child. I never imagined that there were medicines safe enough, doctors skilled enough, and tests specific enough to be sure that I could be safe through making my baby while making sure that our little one didn't have to grow up in the shadow of the genetic disorders carried by my family for generations. And that all this is in fact less expensive than using an egg donor!
Due to a change in Nick's insurance coverage we were afraid that even surrogacy would now be out of our reach as pregnancy and adoption had become but when we went to our appointment we found that many middle & working class couples face the same challenges we have financially and that not only is surrogacy less expensive than many people think, but that there are several packages which bundle services together to make the process even more affordable.
When we went over all this, realizing that I could be the biological mother to our child, that this is in fact less expensive than a high risk pregnancy would have been, I looked over at my husband and his eyes were filled with tears. Sometimes in all this process I have seen how strong & steady Nick is and for a moment, forget the tole that this has taken on him, how much he has wanted to be a father, how afraid & alone he must have felt thinking that he could loose his partner, the love of his life, the one he chose to be the mother of his children.
And now this may all be back within our reach. Pray for us. Send us love up close and from afar, and if your heart is moved to ask how you can help please check Our Surrogacy Story page and scroll down to the bottom of the page to find a donation site set up our loved ones.
**Please know that if you are one of the incredible people who already generously donated to my medical costs last year during the fight for my life, DO NOT feel obligated to do so again. This site is more for those who didn't have the opportunity or ability to help during that time and wish to provide help and support now in what is essentially the fallout from that medical tradgedy.
And to my baby, whom I know will come to meet us soon, I sing you this verse also from Adele's beautiful song,
The winds of change
Are blowing wild and free
You ain't seen nothing
Like me yet
Nothing that I wouldn't do
Go to the ends
Of the Earth for you
To make you feel my love,
To make you feel my love.
And to our brave & loving surrogate, I hope you feel our love today & every day in this process. I've had the joy of getting to know you as a friend and then as a family member over the past 13 years and I've only loved you more, respected you more, admired you as a mother more, every single year. Here's to a lifetime of happy motherhood for us both!
Lots of Love,